What do I need to do? Tradsey buyer wants to return...

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I had a 'high maintenance' buyer on Tradsey who just received her top and says it's too small and she's going to return it.  Are there any steps I have to take for her to do this?  She messaged me through Tradsey saying she loved it, but it doesn't fit her and she's retuning it.  I thought that once I sold something there that was the end of it.  Do I even have to respond to her message?   TIA!

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I wonder if she doesn't realize how returns work in Tradesy. You're not responsible for her return, but I'm not sure what a buyer has to do to return either since I've never purchased anything there!

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Feb 3, 2016 22:19:22 GMT @all4saleny said:

I had a 'high maintenance' buyer on Tradsey who just received her top and says it's too small and she's going to return it.  Are there any steps I have to take for her to do this?  She messaged me through Tradsey saying she loved it, but it doesn't fit her and she's retuning it.  I thought that once I sold something there that was the end of it.  Do I even have to respond to her message?   TIA!

help.tradesy.com/article/125-returns-process?tref=returns

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I do know they have "stores" set up to resell the returns and I think the customer pays a restocking fee too.

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Send her the link Betsroff posted on how to return.

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Thanks guys - you're the best! I just sent her the link.

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She returns to tradesy and they resell.  it has nothing to do with you, i don't believe, once it's delivered.

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Yep, returns are easy with Tradesy I spotted a few of mine for sale again, which means they were returned. I had an issue once when buyer returned for 'SNAD' and funds were temporarily frozen on my account, but her issue was size (it was size L and with stupid Tradesy system you have to chose L/12 or L/14, I chose L/14 and she was bitching how it runs like 12 and not 14) and I got money released very soon.

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I messaged her back saying I was sorry it didn't work out for her and gave her the link Bets provided. She messaged me back saying "thanks, dear", lol.

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Maybe it's just the area I live in, but when I hear someone say "dear" I swear they are saying b*t*h.

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Feb 5, 2016 13:58:29 GMT @chichappenz said:

Maybe it's just the area I live in, but when I hear someone say "dear" I swear they are saying b*t*h.

Lol, I know, right! While I don't think she meant it that way, you just never know...

[frakinfashion]

Aw, when I hear "dear" I soak up all that love like a very dry sponge.

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Feb 5, 2016 18:03:34 GMT frakinfashion said:

Aw, when I hear "dear" I soak up all that love like a very dry sponge.

Lol, yes, I do that too.  I think it all depends on who's saying it and how they're saying it. 

The last few years I've taken up the habit of calling someone I don't know but am having a semi-social interaction with 'hon'.  Usually I do it when the person is my age or younger.  I'll do it at the store I manage, or at the grocery store, places like that.  I don't do it in a condescending way, but in a friendly way.  Usually no one takes offense - I can't really think of anyone who has. And if they have, they haven't let me know.

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I don't like the "dear" or "hon" at all probably because I am older and it feels like a reference to age to me.

I think it might be a regional thing but maybe not. It seems like people always refer to older people with that "dear" or "hon". I hate it when servers in restaurants do the "dear" stuff.

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I definitely prefer 'dear' or 'hon' over 'mam', although I haven't heard that being used in a while.

[jandsknight]

Here in the south Ma'am is still much used and is a sign of respect.

I don't like when someone calls me (with my gray hair & wrinkles) a "young lady".

[kritter]

Here in the south Ma'am is still much used and is a sign of respect.

Exactly. ^^^^^^^^^^^

 "Dear" and "Hon" are just a little too familiar when it comes from a complete stranger.  I don't say anything to the person but I just don't like it.

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Yeah, I've heard that too - that some people don't like it. Not being from the south, I wouldn't feel comfortable saying Ma'am, and not living in the south is probably why I don't hear it a lot here.

Now that I'm more aware, what would be a good term to address someone you don't know in a casual friendly way - (not using 'dear', 'hon' or 'young lady' [which is totally ridiculous if the person is over 25, lol])?

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Ma'am and Sir are not for people you know, they are for strangers or anyone of authority and are signs of respect, it's not a north or south thing, think of the military, it's a respect thing. While it's probably used in household situations more in the southern regions when you get into corporate situations yes sir and yes ma'am is pretty standard. Never heard of it being regional before.

Lots of older ladies here use hon or dear and I give them a free pass because they are my elders and I will respect whatever they want to call me as long as it's not too bad LOL But when someone near my age or younger uses those terms it bothers me. I'm not your hon, I'm not your dear, not your sweetie or cutie patootie muffin pie you don't know me, don't use cutesy knicknames for me. Just say Hi, how are you. No need to insert a nickname in there, just hi is good with me.

Oh and that mini rant was in no way directed at you are anyone else here. It was more directed at one creepy chic at the grocery store that lays it on way too thick, I try to avoid her line but sometimes she's the only one open when I go. LOL

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Oh and no I don't usually use Ma'am and Sir in a casual greeting like Hi Ma'am or Hi Sir to me that's a bit awkward sounding which is why I suggested just to skip it all together and go straight to how are you. I do however use sir and ma'am off and on when I answer questions and it's just habit. Like when I was working if a customer asked me a question it would be yes ma'am or yes sir.

[kritter]

Oh and that mini rant was in no way directed at you are anyone else here. It was more directed at one creepy chic at the grocery store that lays it on way too thick, I try to avoid her line but sometimes she's the only one open when I go. LOL

My rant goes toward a whippersnapper server at the Chilis where my friend and I go for lunch.  He throws those "dears" around at me and I cringe.  Poor Beth gives me the eye begging me not to get up and slap his dear head off.

I agree. Why feel the need to address them with any familiar nickname?  Just "Hi" works for me.

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a question it would be yes ma'am or yes sir.

That's when I use it too and I am sure it was a lingering habit from small kid times when that was how we were taught to answer adults.

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I hate it when women call me dear, hon or the like. I'm from the south and still feel it's condescending. I also hate when servers use the all inclusive 'we'. Ugh

[val2525]

My rant goes toward a whippersnapper server at the Chilis where my friend and I go for lunch. He throws those "dears" around at me and I cringe. Poor Beth gives me the eye begging me not to get up and slap his dear head off.

Is he gay by chance? I hear that a lot from gay guys, but the ones I know don't mean any disrespect.

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Oh, I don't think he means any disrespect when he says it. I think he thinks he is being sweet to an old lady but this old lady feels like telling him to pound sand when he says it.

I am of the new age of old ladies that doesn't do "dear" things.