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Post by staytuned on Jul 11, 2022 13:41:44 GMT
Good morning, one and all. Hot summer day. 'nuff said. Have a (fill in the blank) day.
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Post by allikat on Jul 11, 2022 13:56:21 GMT
I had a great meal and wonderful conversation with DH's friend and his parents. I really think that it is going to be a good friendship for both of us. I sat and talked to his daughters ages 18 and 21 for about 2 hours after we got home from dinner. They seemed to welcome me into their house, I was worried because I didn't want any misunderstandings or to upset them. They are wonderful girls, one is in college but one graduated from high school and is stuck and afraid to move forward. She won't get her drivers license so that means she cannot get a job or leave house on her own. The grandparents and dad have talked until they are so frustrated and at their wit's end. All of them asked if I could maybe befriend her and see if someone outside the family and new to situation would be able to help jostled her loose. I told them I would be glad to try but it was going to take time for me to get to know her organically and I was going to ask her questions that I already knew the answer to because I want her to think she is telling me everything and not everyone talking about her. I was going to be her friend, adult to adult and not treat her like a child. DH's friend said he would love to help DS with any house project he would like help with and just hang out with DS as he has no son and just would like to help, he said DS reminds him so much of DH.
They invited me to their family reunion on 24th, I told them I would go. They invited DS and DIL to be also, as it is in their neighborhood.
The neighbors across from me just rescued a Great Dane, I think I am going to dog sit for 10 days at the end of the month for them. She is the sweetest, gentlest dog I am totally in love with her. I almost rescued her and when I saw her across the street and then met her I was sorry I didn't but she is in a great home and she is going to have a great dog sitter across the street, lol. She weighs 95 pounds but you can walk her with the leash on one finger, its amazing. I outweigh her by 5 pounds, haha.
That husky is beautiful but way too much hair for me I am going to lean towards the super short hair dogs, I have to admit having a dog in the house made me think that I need one of my own. I may dog sit, volunteer and foster until I am totally ready to make the commitment.
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Post by kritter on Jul 11, 2022 14:05:49 GMT
Fostering is a great plan. There are never enough fosters for all the pets that need a place to stay where they are loved rather than sitting in a cage at a shelter.
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Post by kritter on Jul 11, 2022 14:09:24 GMT
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Post by labbypaws on Jul 11, 2022 14:38:56 GMT
All home and unpacked. Doing wash. Nice ride home.
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Post by frakinfashion on Jul 11, 2022 18:40:10 GMT
Caption for the pic above: It's so hard to get back to work on Monday!
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Post by allikat on Jul 11, 2022 22:36:43 GMT
I helped my seamstress friend make a bowling pin costume today for a local commercial, we had a great time doing it but what a terrible project, lol. She told them to just buy one but they were determined to have it made.
Hot here, was cleaning pond and dropped my shoe in I had to wait for it to float to surface. Could have been worse, could have been my phone. I thought I had bear poop in my walkway between garages but it has been definitively determined to not be bear poop thank goodness. I have a fox who poops everywhere, neighbor thinks it was maybe him just had eaten different stuff than the other droppings. So glad not bear!
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Post by val2525 on Jul 11, 2022 22:41:06 GMT
Fostering is a great plan. There are never enough fosters for all the pets that need a place to stay where they are loved rather than sitting in a cage at a shelter. Just be aware that if you foster one of Kritter's rescues, you'll probably end up adopting the rescue. Yes, Twila, I'm talking about you.
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Post by val2525 on Jul 11, 2022 22:46:38 GMT
I knocked down wasp nest #8 this morning and said "enough". I filed a maintenance request with the office and the maintenance guys just left. One had a can of wasp spray and I told him he was going to need more than that. I went downstairs and showed both guys where the main nests are, and told them about building 7 (nests are even larger on that building ). Hopefully they'll be able to do something. They also said the netting I want to put up to "screen in" my balcony is OK as long as it's not permanently attached (it won't be). Yay! Now I just need the wasps to go away so I can hang the darn bug netting!! I also need to order some Raid Hornet killer. I have Hot Shot, but it doesn't spray as far as they claim it will. I have the cutest little hummingbird who came by yesterday and just hung out on the balcony for a while. He's the reason I found wasp nest #8. He came by again today, and was just sitting there on the light strand letting the breeze flow under his wings. His buddy joined him for a bit. I wish I could put a feeder out for them, but no can do thanks to the darn wasps. It's the first time I've ever seen hummingbirds just sitting around.
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Post by chapeaunoir on Jul 12, 2022 3:36:30 GMT
Three of us once made M & M costumes - they were easy to make - just two foam rubber discs which we made into sandwich boards. I stenciled the logo and we all sewed various colored covers for the foam rubber. We took them for a trial run walking around in the street in front of one friend's apartment building, and caused quite a stir!
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Post by allikat on Jul 12, 2022 12:07:33 GMT
The bowling pin required foam, boning, part of a hoop skirt and come to find out they are going to destroy it at the end of the commercial, going to set fire to it. Friend got paid well for making it but still a waste in my mind. Use it for a few commercials then destroy.
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Post by denise15601 on Jul 12, 2022 13:20:41 GMT
I used to make Halloween costumes for my daughters. A ton of work involved. Sold them on eBay, after my grandson rejected wearing them. LOL.
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Post by labbypaws on Jul 12, 2022 19:04:02 GMT
Electric company contractors cut the xfinity cable underground. Hope they show up soon. My last vacation day for a while and we have no internet (I have AT&T wireless on my iPads and iPhone).
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Post by val2525 on Jul 12, 2022 20:05:05 GMT
I took the latest wasp next down this morning, after spraying it again. Dang if I don't have new wasps buzzing around out there this afternoon At least they're entertainment for Twila and Simon. My little hummingbird buddy is back too. I heard his chirping but I couldn't find him. Ends up he decided he wanted a different view and is sitting on the other end of the balcony. He's a tiny little thing. Speaking of Twila, she's finally expressing interest in the sofa. The last 2 nights, she's hopped up while Simon was snoozing next to me. She startled me Sunday night so when I jumped, she did too Last night though, she checked me out, the spot by Simon, and decided she would sit on the back of the sofa behind me instead and make biscuits. Progress!
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Post by blissfullymiserable on Jul 13, 2022 14:10:50 GMT
Cliff decided to make our front and back yard bird friendly. The bigger birds sure can go through a whole lot of bird seed. He put up a few hummingbird feeders too, we see them flying around but they have no interest in our feeders
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Post by jesmelric on Jul 13, 2022 18:13:56 GMT
Hello, I hope everyone is doing well. Hot, hot, and more hot here. They keep saying the high pressure "heat dome" will move off and we will get a change in the weather pattern. Then it does for two days then comes right back! Sunday they said we broke a record for the hottest day in July ever recorded here. And the forecast says more of the same. Sigh.
Well we had some drama with the nursing home on Friday. My sister and I happened to be chatting on her house phone when her cell phone rang and it was the facility; she put it on speaker so I could hear it. It was the director of nursing and they had the results of mom's competency test and said mom was deemed competent to make her own decisions and didn't need anyone's permission to have a relationship with this man. That there wasn't going to be any marriage but they could share a room if they both chose to and they were in the activities room at that moment holding hands. She also said his person of responsibility is his ex-wife (maybe a bit weird lol). Well, ok then. But then my sister gets a call from the psychiatric nurse that did the exam and she said the opposite. That mom was not deemed competent and that she needed permission to have the relationship. And that if either family objected one of them would have to leave the nursing home. And when my sister said the Director of Nursing told her the opposite she said "that's not what I told her". Well ok then. Then she called my sister back for some more background information on mom, and I don't know if my sister spilled too many beans or what (mom's had some behavioral issues ever since we can remember) but then the social worker called her and said it was deemed the relationship was a danger to mom and that my sister had till Monday to pick mom up or they were dropping her off on her doorstep!!! My sister had to work over the weekend and wtf anyway??!! So I looked it up and legally they have to give 30 days written notice and plus if mom was deemed incompetent and he was deemed competent (which the DON told us) than HE is a danger to HER and legally he's the one that has to leave.
So my sister gets in contact with the administrator to see what is going on. And she said he got to stay because he's been there longer and they haven't had any problems with his behavior in a "long time" and she did apologize for the social worker saying that, that they weren't going to drop her off but my sister needed to find somewhere else because they have to have someone one on one with them now and they can't afford that. And my sister was like I don't understand the conflicting calls on her competency? So the administrator takes a look at the report and says she doesn't know why the psychiatric nurse deemed her incompetent because her score was high and she knew who she was and where she was and even what day it was and that is a direct conflict to call her incompetent. And that mom said to the nurse he was the "love of her life" so they said she would suffer some depression if moved from him. So she says she'll look into it and get back to her. Then Saturday she gets a call from an independent psychiatric nurse who said they contracted with her to test mom's competency. And she calls my sister back Saturday evening and says she found mom had serious short term memory issues but deemed her competent to make her own decisions and she would present her report to the facility Monday and my sister would hear from them.
But she never did so she called today (apparently she had been out ill, she said not covid) and she said since the second report clearly deemed her competent everything was fine and mom could stay. Wow. So I was looking it up over the weekend and apparently, at least in TX, it's a thing for nursing homes to just ditch people! Like literally drop them off at a homeless shelter with all their stuff and just drive off! And that they would rather "pay a small fine to the state" then deal with difficult people or their difficult families. So we didn't know what would happen. And due to my sister's work schedule we aren't going to visit till next Monday. So who knew? And of course now we're just waiting on the other shoe to drop.
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Post by val2525 on Jul 13, 2022 18:20:25 GMT
Um, jesmelric? It might be a good idea to have you added to your mom's POA if your sister has a work schedule that does not allow her to be contacted and reply within a reasonable period of time.
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Post by jesmelric on Jul 13, 2022 18:22:36 GMT
Um, jesmelric ? It might be a good idea to have you added to your mom's POA if your sister has a work schedule that does not allow her to be contacted and reply within a reasonable period of time. They said the POA isn't even in force now because mom had been declared competent, and she has to be declared legally incompetent for it to be effective. And I guess I worded it wrong, my sister was waiting on the call, the administrator was apparently sick and that is why she hadn't called.
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Post by val2525 on Jul 13, 2022 18:25:21 GMT
Cliff decided to make our front and back yard bird friendly. The bigger birds sure can go through a whole lot of bird seed. He put up a few hummingbird feeders too, we see them flying around but they have no interest in our feeders Maybe this will help with the hummingbirds: hummingbirdbliss.com/why-wont-hummingbirds-come-to-my-feeder/#:~:text=Hummingbirds%20are%20not%20coming%20to,migrants%2C%20presence%20of%20potential%20predators. If you don't want to mess with real flowers, put some pots out with colorful fake flowers (Dollar Tree has some good ones and they're cheap). The colorful fake flowers will attract the hummingbirds and then they'll find the feeders (or so I'm told). Both Shirley and I have hummingbirds checking out our fake flowers all the time Speaking of which, my little hummingbird buddy is early today. He's been coming around 2:30 or so to hang out on the balcony, but I just noticed he's arrived an hour early. It is pretty hot out there already. I named him Alpha since he was the first to come around (there appear to be 3 that like my balcony). I have no feeders out there due to the wasps, just a bunch of brightly colored fake flowers in pots, 2 very colorful wind chimes, and a colorful wind spinner. I see multiple hummingbirds zipping around and checking it all out quite often.
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Post by blissfullymiserable on Jul 13, 2022 18:54:50 GMT
We have a whole bunch of bright pink bougainvilleas in the back and some other real red flowers in the front right underneath the feeder. Hope they find them soon.
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Post by RetroMonde on Jul 13, 2022 18:56:09 GMT
Wow Jes, that's just a mess of drama! I don't think your mom is the one(s) that's incompetant lol- sounds like the clowns are running the circus. Hope you can get things settled cause it sounds like your mom is quite happy there. Bliss- the hummers may be ignoring the feeders cause they're getting plenty of nectar from other plants that are in bloom in your area right now. Around here our butterfly bushes are in full, glorious bloom and have butterflies and hummingbirds munching constantly. The hummers will come back when they're ready for assistance. You could use the red nectar that's available at stores to attract them now, and switch to homemade when they've figured out where your feeder is open for business. Our weather here has been up & down- last 2 days were scorchers but we're supposed to stay in the low to mid 80s for awhile; that sounds much better. I've been a nervous wreck lately- the twins are 12 weeks old today, very slowly gaining weight and have just been prescribed thyroid meds. And baby Riley is getting a MRI tomorrow so they're going to 'knock her out' for the procedure. As always your thoughts and prayers are appreciated for a smooth procedure. I babysat both girls yesterday- here I am with Riley. Ramona was sound asleep so I didn't get her picture.
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Post by val2525 on Jul 13, 2022 18:58:51 GMT
The wasps are out in force today, swarming around in the oak tree outside my balcony. I googled and discovered wasps like oak trees (one strain nests in them exclusively) so that might be part of why there are so many wasps here. This complex has TONS of trees. More trees than any other complex I've lived in. I've been looking at properties online. When I do a drive through this weekend, I'll have to look for trees as well. I've driven through my first choice and it did not have all that many trees, so that might be a good thing
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Post by denise15601 on Jul 13, 2022 19:32:54 GMT
Jes-what a mess!!! Seems like you will have to walk on eggshells at that place with your weird laws. I hope that all goes well from now on.
Retro! What a cutie!!!!!!! Prayers for Riley.
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Post by labbypaws on Jul 13, 2022 20:17:49 GMT
Jes your state should have an omnibus person that handles any nursing home issues. You may need to contact that person.
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Post by labbypaws on Jul 13, 2022 23:06:05 GMT
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Post by jesmelric on Jul 14, 2022 17:22:02 GMT
Jes your state should have an omnibus person that handles any nursing home issues. You may need to contact that person. Thanks for the information we will hang on to it. It was just crazy the way they were handling things, but I do understand there could be liability issues. But mom told them he's the "love of her life" so obviously she doesn't want to have to go somewhere else. Due to my sister's work schedule we weren't able to make it there this week but plan on going Monday. They have had 2 residents test positive for Covid so we are going to wear our K95 masks the whole time and only stay an hour.
We have a 40% chance of rain this afternoon, please keep your fingers crossed for us!! Last time we had a chance of rain I didn't hang out the laundry and it didn't rain. So today I was like well I will hang out the laundry and maybe that will bring the rain lol. It's probably already almost dry and I'd rather have my laundry get wet than no rain.
Val DH has had a big problem with wasps in his shed this summer. I don't know if it's the heat/drought or both or neither but they seem especially bad this year. I was never stung by a wasp until I was in my 40s. OUCH! It hurt a lot more than I realized. They are wicked.
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Post by frakinfashion on Jul 14, 2022 19:01:15 GMT
Hello, I hope everyone is doing well. Hot, hot, and more hot here. They keep saying the high pressure "heat dome" will move off and we will get a change in the weather pattern. Then it does for two days then comes right back! Sunday they said we broke a record for the hottest day in July ever recorded here. And the forecast says more of the same. Sigh.
Well we had some drama with the nursing home on Friday. My sister and I happened to be chatting on her house phone when her cell phone rang and it was the facility; she put it on speaker so I could hear it. It was the director of nursing and they had the results of mom's competency test and said mom was deemed competent to make her own decisions and didn't need anyone's permission to have a relationship with this man. That there wasn't going to be any marriage but they could share a room if they both chose to and they were in the activities room at that moment holding hands. She also said his person of responsibility is his ex-wife (maybe a bit weird lol). Well, ok then. But then my sister gets a call from the psychiatric nurse that did the exam and she said the opposite. That mom was not deemed competent and that she needed permission to have the relationship. And that if either family objected one of them would have to leave the nursing home. And when my sister said the Director of Nursing told her the opposite she said "that's not what I told her". Well ok then. Then she called my sister back for some more background information on mom, and I don't know if my sister spilled too many beans or what (mom's had some behavioral issues ever since we can remember) but then the social worker called her and said it was deemed the relationship was a danger to mom and that my sister had till Monday to pick mom up or they were dropping her off on her doorstep!!! My sister had to work over the weekend and wtf anyway??!! So I looked it up and legally they have to give 30 days written notice and plus if mom was deemed incompetent and he was deemed competent (which the DON told us) than HE is a danger to HER and legally he's the one that has to leave.
So my sister gets in contact with the administrator to see what is going on. And she said he got to stay because he's been there longer and they haven't had any problems with his behavior in a "long time" and she did apologize for the social worker saying that, that they weren't going to drop her off but my sister needed to find somewhere else because they have to have someone one on one with them now and they can't afford that. And my sister was like I don't understand the conflicting calls on her competency? So the administrator takes a look at the report and says she doesn't know why the psychiatric nurse deemed her incompetent because her score was high and she knew who she was and where she was and even what day it was and that is a direct conflict to call her incompetent. And that mom said to the nurse he was the "love of her life" so they said she would suffer some depression if moved from him. So she says she'll look into it and get back to her. Then Saturday she gets a call from an independent psychiatric nurse who said they contracted with her to test mom's competency. And she calls my sister back Saturday evening and says she found mom had serious short term memory issues but deemed her competent to make her own decisions and she would present her report to the facility Monday and my sister would hear from them.
But she never did so she called today (apparently she had been out ill, she said not covid) and she said since the second report clearly deemed her competent everything was fine and mom could stay. Wow. So I was looking it up over the weekend and apparently, at least in TX, it's a thing for nursing homes to just ditch people! Like literally drop them off at a homeless shelter with all their stuff and just drive off! And that they would rather "pay a small fine to the state" then deal with difficult people or their difficult families. So we didn't know what would happen. And due to my sister's work schedule we aren't going to visit till next Monday. So who knew? And of course now we're just waiting on the other shoe to drop.
OMG. So sorry this is happening. Texas is really a brutal place to live, it seems, on so many levels.
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Post by kritter on Jul 14, 2022 22:04:25 GMT
Texas is not for the faint of heart and that works for Texans.
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Post by val2525 on Jul 14, 2022 23:45:50 GMT
That "Drive Friendly - The Texas Way" on the welcome sign had me ROFLMAO The Texas idea of friendly driving is tailgating (so they can get to know you better), no blinkers (to keep the relationship interesting) and aggressive speeding (because, hey, life is short, yeah?) IMO the only drivers worse than TX drivers are NY drivers and FL drivers who are from NY. At least TX drivers don't lay on the horn immediately when the light changes.
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Post by kritter on Jul 15, 2022 0:03:51 GMT
No, we don't, because we know that at least 3 more cars who had the previous green light will still cross the intersection before it is safe for those with the current green light to proceed.
You just have to know the Texas rules of the road.
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